Confidence: full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing.
How many of us can truly say that we have confidence in people? Often times we tend to build walls around our hearts due to broken confidence. Over time, the walls become fifty inches thick and ten miles high. We convince ourselves that keeping people at an arms distance will help avoid more hurt. The devil turns everyone into a suspect in our minds then fills our heads with twisted thoughts. Life jumps in there with a number of challenges to add to the stress. The devil whispers that Jesus doesn’t care while offering scenarios to confirm that. We feel ashamed to tell anyone we are struggling for fear of being judged. The flesh turns to a variety of remedies for the pain. Thoughts turn into actions that are labeled “sin”.
Routinely, we go about our days. We tell the world we’re fine with our highlight reel in effort to convince ourselves that one day it will be. We master a smile, throw in a laugh or two, post a scripture, tell the world we love Jesus and go to sleep. Second verse, same as the first. We live unsettled in our souls but pride forbids us to tell anyone. Confession is good for the soul but not our reputation. “What if they view me as less of a person or a weak Christian?” We place ourselves securely on lock-down to keep people fooled. In actuality, we’re just keeping the sin in. Which will matter in eternity, your reputation or your soul?
Some people turn to obvious “remedies” to cope with life’s events such as alcohol, sex, gambling, nicotine, opiates or even suicide. You know, those things that we Christians are supposed to shake a stick at. Others stash away secrecies of addiction to food, caffeine, Xanax or other “emotional support”, Netflix, social media attention, unforgiveness, and good ol’ self loathing. There are people who would rather God NOT fix their problem so they will continue to have something to blame for their actions. Every human with breath in their lungs deals with something. The flesh is determined to convince us to turn to something. Why is it so easy for us to point fingers at our neighbor who is struggling while we have a sin abscess of our own growing inside us?
Matthew 7:4-5: “How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
James 2:10 says, “For whoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one point, he is guilty of all.”
If you were in a car wreck, pinned in and fighting for you life, would you quietly stay trapped in hope that the situation will get better on it’s own? No, you cry for help! Why can’t we do that spiritually? Some cry for help through their actions. Do we stay self-absorbed and ignore it all for the sake of not dealing with them?
I’ve heard the phrase “we want revival in our land” so many times. Meanwhile, Christians sit proudly by, soaking in sin that they are too ashamed to admit. We throw rocks at those around us in effort to keep the spotlight off of our sinking state. If only we could get sick of our own sin as much as we’re sick of our neighbor’s sin! We are all guilty of sin and are in need of the freedom that comes from the blood of Jesus.
What if another Christian (especially one in ministry) came to you in confidence with a struggle that they are dealing with? What if you are the ONE person that they choose to trust? Are you mature enough to help guide them to help and hold them accountable without telling the world? How many of us would be patient enough to help a person work through their addictions? Jesus is constantly interceding for us. Why can’t we do the same for our neighbor?
James 5:16: “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”
Let me be the first to confess that I have made decisions in my past that were far from Christ-like. I’ve been a part of inappropriate relationships, gossip and rebellion. I’m guilty of alcohol, eating my feelings and judgement of another. Am I now perfect because I repented? NO. It simply means I’m obedient in doing what God instructs us to do when we fail. Romans 3:23 reminds us that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.
You may be battling your insides today with an addiction that you’d rather not tell a soul. The devil loves darkness so shine light on that subject. To all of you who consider yourself a Christian, be that friend to someone who needs YOU the most. Share your story in how God helped you overcome YOUR strongholds.
Galatians 6:2: “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”