Updated: Sep 4, 2019
I recently had lunch with an old friend. As we were finishing up, it became clear that she was pretty discouraged as she scrolled through social media. She started commenting on how all of her Facebook friends seemed to “have it all together.”
“They look so in love.”
“Their house always seems to be clean.”
“They have such a great job.”
She went on and on. She then quickly turned her phone around and pointed to a picture of me and my boys and said, “See? You have it together too. My kids would never smile for a picture like that!” I immediately laughed and said, “You should see the 12 pictures we took before that one! I only post the good pictures.”
I realized at that moment, that I, like most people, am guilty of sharing my “highlight reel” on social media. I’d like to say it’s mostly because I refuse to complain on Facebook and I’m fully committed to avoiding dramatic or negative posts, but if I’m being totally honest I’d also have to admit that, perhaps, I’d hate for anyone to know that I really DON’T have it all together.
Heaven forbid people see that I’ve gotten fat, or that my house is messy, or that my kids don’t always behave, or even worse that I do indeed struggle with sin, just like everyone else. Maybe it’s natural for us to subconsciously hide the parts of ourselves of which we’re ashamed, and showcase the good stuff, but I’d like to think if we were all a little more real and honest, we might just be more encouraged and realize we’re not alone.
"If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another." - Galatians 5:25-26
I shared with my friend that I believe none of us really have it all together and it’s not a good idea to compare our own flawed and messy existence to others’ filtered and perfected social media lives. Comparison is a tool the devil has most certainly used to bring us all down at some point and make us feel less valuable. But God says we’re priceless!
We want to share a more open and honest dialogue about life, ministry, motherhood, marriage, music, health, and more! We want to encourage all who are willing to read that you are not alone. We’re all pretty much a mess even if it doesn’t show on Facebook. Ha! God has not forgotten you. God is still good even when life is hard. And if we listen closely enough, together, we can find the melody He’s so graciously given us.