My New Year's Resolution This Year Is To Not Care About Things That Do Not Matter

My New Year's Resolution this year?

Stop caring about things that do not matter.

I am a control freak, there I said it. And not only of what is going on today...but I also have this amazing ability to predict the future before it happens, and try to control it beforehand. Trouble is, things never quite happen like I imagined, and my plans to control every part of the situation never work out.

I worry about what we will have for dinner. I worry about what we will wear tomorrow. I worry about what I will say. I worry about my children: do they have enough of what they need? Do I give them too much of what they want? Am I doing it right? Am I blowing it as a mom?

I worry about my husband. Oh, I worry about him. He carries so much. You fellow pastor's wives can relate, I know.

I worry about our future. I even worry about the past!

You guys, I am a champion worrier.

I have even considered myself ultra Righteous for worrying. I have tricked myself into thinking that God likes me a little bit more because I worry. I decided He must see how much I care about the things He has given me, and He must be proud of me for worrying so much about all those things!

And then I realized how many times in the Scriptures that Jesus told us NOT to worry.

"Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?"

Matthew 6:25-30

That's just ONE are a few more you can look up for yourself:

Philippians 4:6-7

1 Peter 5:7

Mark 13:11

Matthew 6:34

Here's the truth: there is not a single thing that I, within myself, can add to any situation except maybe more grief or confusion.

BUT- if I let God worry about things for me, then I will be in His perfect will and I will do just what HE wants me to do. And I won't have to spend all my time going in mental circles about what is going to happen in my life.

In the coming year, I will be praying to give the thoughts of my mind to Jesus. I will be asking HIM to do the worrying for me. I will trust His will and go where He wants me to go. I will do what HE wants me to do. I will say what HE wants me to say. And I will look outside at the flowers and know that if God can take care of them, He surely can take care of me.

This year, I want to hang up my WORRIER attire, and pick up my WARRIOR attire.

(PS- I would LOVE to hear all about your New Year goals too: please leave a comment!)

written by Ashley Franks

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