To The Friend That I Miss: I Thank God Every Time I Remember You

"To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under Heaven:"

-Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NKJV)

We've all heard that verse, maybe even hundreds of times. We may even know it by heart. But when seasons of life change, it is still hard. The hard truth is this-- not every person is meant to come into your life and stay forever. And some people will come into your life and stay forever, but their role in your life will change after a while.

Some people are seasonal friends.

Some people are in your life to teach you a lesson, and then move on.

And let's just be real: sometimes, we are more than happy to let people move on and out of our lives. (Can I get an Amen?)

But what about when it hurts?

What about when we weren't ready for that season to be over?

What does God want us to learn when the seasons end abruptly, without warning?

I had several really close friends in high school, but only one "best friend." We were inseparable. Some of our other friends even joked that we shared a brain(I still think there was some truth to that statement!). When we graduated, we picked a college together. We chose classes together. We laughed together, cried together, gave each other dating advice and made stupid mistakes together. Those days are some of my fondest memories of my whole life!

In my second year of college, I met my husband. God QUICKLY changed the season of my life. I was married a year later, at the ripe old age of 19, and moved to Tennessee to start my new chapter. That also meant I had to leave my best friend 250 miles away. She did not shame me for continuing the story of my life, either. She stood by me at my wedding, as my maid of honor, and cheered for me when I left for my honeymoon. She was the best friend I had ever had.

Yes, our season changed.

And yes, things are different now.

But...she is forever part of my story. And now, when we get the chance to talk, I think about how much I am thankful for the ways she engraved herself into my mind and memories. I am forever different because of her friendship. And I can only hope that in some small way, I made a mark on her life as well.

So, what I believe we are supposed to learn is this: Seasons come. Seasons go. We must live every day as if everything might be different tomorrow. You never know when the course of your life is going to detour without warning. Do your best to make sure that if someone looks back on the time that you were prominent in their life, they think of it with gratitude.

"I thank my God upon EVERY remembrance of you." (Philippians 1:3)

Think of the people who helped write your story, and instead of being angry or sad that they are no longer there in the same capacity, think on them them with thankfulness. Thank God every time you remember them. And embrace a new season!

"Behold, I will do a new thing..." (Isaiah 43:19)



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